I know I only blogged a day ago, and did state that I wouldn’t press on about goals etc. (In that blog.) Well, Jack Canfield’s email to me today was so straightforward and essential that I had to share it with you. Full credit to Jack – I am merely sharing his information.
Decide What You Want for Yourself in 2010
by Jack Canfield
In order to get what you want, you must first decide what you want.
Most people really foul up at this crucial first step because they simply can’t see how it’s possible to get what they want — so they don’t even let themselves want it.
What scientists now know about how the brain works is that you must first decide the ‘WHAT’ before your brain can figure out the ‘HOW’.
Once you lock-in your desires, your mind and the universe can step in.
Are you ready to get started?
STEP 1: Decide to Dream BIG and Be Willing to Dream BIG Dreams
Big dreams not only inspire you, but they also compel others to want to play big, too. Don’t think you should only dream big during economic heydays. Dream big every day, especially during tough times.
As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dreams come true.
STEP 2: Set Goals That Will Stretch You
Another value in giving yourself permission to go after the big dreams is that big dreams require you to grow in order to achieve them. In fact, in the long run, this is the greatest benefit you will receive from pursuing your dreams — not so much the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream (an expensive car, impressive house, loads of money and philanthropic opportunities), but who you become in the process.
As I’ve seen many times over, the outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success.
STEP 3: Service to Others
As you pinpoint what you want to go after, think about how you can be of service to others. When your dreams include this element, you’ll find yourself speeding along the path to accomplishing that goal. People want to be part of something that makes a difference.
STEP 4: Turn Your Dreams into Goals and Objectives
Once you are clear about what you want, you must turn each item into a measurable goal. By measurable, I mean measurable in space and time, how much and by when. Don’t just say that you want to lose weight, for instance. Be specific, push yourself to higher limits, and set dates. Say something like, “I want to lose 50 pounds by summer and participate in my community’s 10K for charity by the 4th of July.”
Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain — God, the Universe — can’t figure out what you want unless you specifically tell them what it is.
What do you want — exactly — and when do you want it by?
Step 5: Write Your Goals Down
Write your goals down in detail, and read your list of goals every day. This will keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions.
I recommend writing down a minimum of 3 goals in each of the following 7 areas:
1. Financial Goals
2. Career/Business Goals
3. Free Time/Family Time
4. Health/Appearance Goals
5. Relationship Goals
6. Personal Growth
7. Making a Difference/Contribution
If you want help getting started, I have some handy worksheets and even more guidance for you that models this formula, including examples. Click here to access this FREE Audio Training and Action Guide to start creating all that you deserve in your life!
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Well, what a fantastic break!! Clearly my new year’s wishes are somewhat belated, but I finally had to settle back into my little work at home role. One of the other benefits of working from home – I pick my holidays!!
I hope that you all enjoyed the silly season as much as I.
I was blessed to be able to spend a real chunk of quality time with my family – from my 9 month old Georgia Rae, right up to my Great Aunt and both my Grandmothers. 4 generations still at the dining table and I’m 35. I am really lucky, as are my children who are getting to experience the joy of being spoiled rotten by not only their grandparents, but great grandparents and a great, great aunt. Great! We celebrated Aunt’s 90th birthday in the weeks leading up to Christmas, and my father’s 60th on Saturday night. A very busy few weeks, but very exciting and lots of fun.
A great finale to 2009 and even better start to 2010.
There are so many messages about our goals and plans for the new year and new decade – so I won’t push the goal-setting, vision creation etc. etc. (this edition anyway! lol).
I will say just a little thing… LOA is at work, business is already off to a flying start, before I returned!! Imagine what can happen with appropriate action…
I attended a meeting on Sunday afternoon and was so pumped up when I got home after spending time with other people in the field, sharing in their successes and learning from their experiences. Remember to think big – it takes no more effort to create something big, than the effort to create something small. I saw living proof that even the ridiculous and seemingly inappropriate or unachievable goals actually can be reached with some hard work and a strong vision. Don’t worry about the “HOW” if you have your “WHY” firmly in your sights, the rest falls into place. I was very blessed to meet the “best” (literally) in the business and am very grateful for the time that this gentleman spent with me and the knowledge he imparted. I am now positive that I am attracting everyone and everything I need to create the success I desire.
Back to the topic at hand – here is a taste of something really nice to lead us into the future “The Shift”. Enjoy!
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I went to an information evening last night and really enjoyed getting out, meeting people, actually a highlight was speaking with adults!!! But I didn’t realise how much I missed it, until I was in the midst of it.
Funnily enough this morning, I open my emails and another WAHM I connect with was saying something along a similar vein.
I wasn’t feeling isolated or lonely, nor deprived of social interaction – until I actually had some. Cyberspace is a friendly place to work, and the comfort of my own home is very convenient, but there is something to getting frocked up, putting on a face and meeting real, live, breathing adults that really reminded me how much I enjoy socialising and networking “in the flesh”. What’s more, I had a room over about 150 people – right there in front of me, interested in business, making money, improving themselves and their situation. There were a large number I could learn from and conversely, a large number that could learn from me.
There is something inspiring about reading a person’s facial expression, seeing their body language and the easy flow of conversation over a coffee or glass of wine.
I know networking and getting out into the real wide world is very important in any business, you shouldn’t just rely solely on the net, but without a partner to babysit and not wanting to impose too regularly on friends and family, I have been a bit slack in that department.
Last night and the little reminder message this morning were just a kind reminder from the universe that I need to continue to interact with real people, not only for my business, but for me, as a woman and individual. It’s good to chat to people, get a different (and sometimes more honest) perspective to bring you back to reality and remember that all we do in our little online and home office worlds manifests in the outside world as well.
We have to remember that we are more than just a robot, feeding the family and working on the computer when we have spare time. We have to get out and have fun and do something outside of being glued to the screen all day.
There is a huge client base in your local suburb, just waiting for you to tap into it as well.
I guess I’m just saying, it’s easy to forget the real world sometimes as we can get quite encapsulated in our little routine and work at home environment.
ACTION
Don’t forget “real” people. Attend local Chamber of Commerce Groups or other groups of interest to keep up your social life or extend your business network. There is a large market still not online that we shouldn’t forget.
Join a group just for fun – nothing to do with business but to get you some external stimulation and friendships that can be a great relief from working at home and balancing the children.
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I was speaking with my mentor this morning about my Humanity Unites Brilliance blog. I was telling him how displeased I was with a couple of the posts – I felt the quality wasn’t what I would like and whilst not inauthentic, they just didn’t feel right.
Interestingly enough there are some posts on there that I really really like and thoroughly enjoyed posting. ALL of the information there gets me excited, what other HUB members are up to – the incredible impact they are having through their actions across the world. Seeing the results in the people they are helping, the figures – actual dollar representation of impact HUB has created in only 2 years – over $1.5 million in humanitarian impact. YAY! That is just from the monthly memberships, excluding projects, donations, fundraisers and the Global shop. Enough said – this is not a pitch for why HUB is so dear to my heart.
What came of all this was that in weeks gone by, I had been quite busy and had just pinched snippets from my weekly newsletters and had not had the opportunity to rework and add myself to the content as I would ordinarily. (Yes, we all get our inspiration from somewhere and it’s just how we put it together that makes it good, bad or ugly).
It was clear by reading the Blog that there was nothing really of myself, especially in the last post – but I had felt it more important to blog something rather than just leaving it for a few more days (we all know how putting something off can often mean it gets left out altogether). How does that resonate with you? Would you prefer to risk leaving something out altogether and breaking continuity over providing something to your valued clients that is less than worthy and clearly not in tune with your own soul purpose? My coach pointed out that my regular readers would find it obvious that I had either slipped or think that the work was not mine.
He asked me point blank: “Are you speaking your internal truth through your blog? The answer was, unfortunately, “No”. Yes, the information was all about my passion, it was all relevant, but it was not from my point of view or interest and was not in my own words from my own heart. I didn’t feel I was being honest in the post, it was just empty advertising.
Yes, we are all one collective consciousness, and we are all often delivering the same message – it is the voice and the vibration that changes. That is why one person can deliver a message a number of times but it takes another person – maybe to only deliver it once before it resonates with the recipient.
Be authentic, be yourself. Yes, you may need to research your content and yes, you may be passing on stories about others and snippets from other sources – but you still need to deliver it in your own voice. You will only truly be happy with your work when it is truly your own. Your readers will not be able to get to know you and develop a sense of trust and ultimately a relationship if they can’t see or experience the real you.
Moral to this story:
I stated in my last blog that “Consistent efforts will reap consistent results. Running hot and cold with your efforts will result in delayed results.”
But, Quality will outshine Quantity any day. If you’ve got a block, or short of time – look at other ways around the issue. Don’t post something you are not really happy with. Be completely lazy and post someone else’s article – with full permission and credit to them if it is more important to have something. At least it is a piece of quality information your clients will benefit from and appreciate. If you’re running out of time for the tasks essential to your business – such as blogging – go back to your timetable and your charts and assess why you didn’t have that time in the first place. But skip that blog if you have to.
ACTION
Be true to yourself and your clients. Always be sure you are speaking your internal truth in anything you write and publish.
If it’s time that is causing your poor effort – go back to your timetable and find out where you’re out of balance.
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Nancy Matthews of the Womens Prosperity Network posed the question today:
What success habits do you have?
She wrote:
“Mixing it Up! Success leaves clues – as does failure. What success habits do you have? Each morning I read – materials to grow my mind and my business. In that quiet space new ideas emerge that continue to move me forward. How about you?”
What was to be my blog (last week…) was about my big lesson. “You can’t do everything on your own – get a team.”
If I’d stuck to my timetable and not tried to do something I shouldn’t, I would not have had so many wasted hours that were unprofitable. I would also have posted this blog last week!!
Don’t try and do everything yourself. Yes, you can save money but sometimes your time is more valuable. Praise yourself for what you can do and forget the rest. You’ll only beat yourself up when you can’t get the desired result doing something outside of your skill set. It’s fun for a challenge sometimes, but this is business and you can have fun later.
I’m hopeless. (One of those things I need to work on in my personal improvement arena is my perfectionism and the resulting need to do everything myself – I need to relinquish control). Like many others, I’m also trying to save money, there have been a few very big ticket items come in around the home in the last little while and I need to be a little careful.
So, I’ve been running around willy nilly in the last few weeks thinking I am superwoman. It has messed up my own timeplan and wasted many hours. I also have to remember that things don’t need to be perfect, so long as they do the trick (still in a neat and professional manner) it is more important to take action that to wait. Trust me, it is true. Studies show that perfectionists are more likely to be underachievers because nothing is ever good enough so they wait for it to be perfect and never actually take action. Now you know my weakspot. It also leads to procrastination (but I’ll talk about that another time).
It is enough to be Mom, Dad, partner, boss, secretary, taxi driver, cleaner etc. etc. without having to be master of professions outside your core skill set. If the activity is not directly related to what you do to create income or to caring for your family – get someone else to do it. None of us can be a pro at everything. I specialise in some fantastic things, but need to remember when I do not specialise, to stop penny pinching or being a control freak and get someone that knows what they are doing in to help.
We all need help and it is nothing to be ashamed about or worried about. Learn to work with others, delegate and give up a little. In the long run with the right people doing the right tasks the end result is much better.
P.S. I’m not talking about a huge staff, especially if you are a one woman/ man show. Just have the right people and resources available so you can get help, pose a question and get advice when you need it. Tweet your query… Post it on Facebook… You’ll be surprised at who is out there and will be delighted to help you.
Moral to this story:
Get a team (friends, associates, paid service providers). You can’t do everything yourself. Something as simple as getting a neighbour’s teenager to mow the lawn for a few dollars can save you a couple of hours per fortnight that can be better spent in another way. Getting someone else to build your website will give you hours free to make real headway on your articles, product or direct marketing. (I should heed my own advice – lol)
ACTION:
Think about it a little – see what you can delegate to someone else – business or personal and give yourself some time for something more important.
Can you be a professional and have vegemite on your pants, a baby on your lap drinking a bottle, a 2yo running around while writing an article with pen and paper because it’s unsafe to use a computer in the vicinity of the kids?
The answer is YES!!
[Dear Lord, that is exactly what I was doing when I drafted this.]
I have just enjoyed a blissful hour while my 2 little treasures had a sleep. As all good things come to an end, so did their sleep.
So, now I sit, 3mth old Georgia on my lap while I feed her a bottle, Joshua is on the couch with a sandwich (half of which is smeared up my right leg – i.e. the vegemite) and I write longhand leaning on a Dr Zeus book.
I am a huge advocate for separating the “work” from the “family” but when they are this small, it can be quite difficult and deadlines still need to be met. I know to an outsider, it may not look like I have it all “together”. If you scratch below the surface however, you will see that sometimes some multitasking goes a very long way.
Whilst others may not see the virtue and some days you wish for a suit and somewhere else to go, remember, your “face” is on the internet – nobody needs to know that you’re not in a suit and heels or tie and that sometimes you have to feed the baby while you put together your proposal.
That, is the huge trick. Promote a professional image and make sure that your finished work is top of the line, no one need ever know how it got that way.
I just had a whole hour to myself and rehashed my blog site, responded to a pile of correspondence, finished designing my Twitter backdrop and had a quick chat with a client.
My biggest tip is to do everything you can to make sure your presentation is neat and tidy and ACCURATE. We have a multitude of tools at our fingertips – use them!! Put some pictures on your page, plan the layouts of your documents or pages, make sure that they look professional. Add visual interest, it really doesn’t take long. If you’re struggling in a program – use the HELP function. You will be given step by step instructions on how to do what you want to do. Spell-check and read your work. I cannot stress that enough – spell-check everything and read it to be sure, spell-check misses things too. Use Dictionary.com, Thesaurus.com, get some exciting vocabulary. The results of your efforts – that is what the world sees – not your stained track pants or your dirty dishes.
That, my friends, is the beauty of the internet.
You will feel some days like you’re getting nothing done. Stick with it, you will find your own system of what works just for you. When that day comes, you’ll be sitting there smiling – grinning even with your child’s food stuck to you, toys spread all over the floor, baby on your lap, feeling absolutely wonderful about who you are, where you are, what you are doing and how you got there.
Welcome to my new blog!! I am really excited about the great offers and information across a range of topics I am about to share.
Balancing working from home and parenting at the same time is absolutely possible. You can work as little or as much as you choose, when you want, so you have complete flexibility.
Some of us just need a few tricks and tips to get into shape, others require a mentor, an “Accountability Partner” – someone to check in with regularly to keep on track. Organisation is the key. Time management is the answer. But your management needs to be wholistic – the whole thing, your time, your mind, your body and your spirit. Each part must be accounted for, nurtured and nourished. Only then will you perform at your peak to and give your best to yourself, your business and your children.
Future posts will give you the pieces of the puzzle you need to put together to achieve this.
So, now I sit, 3mth old Georgia on my lap while I feed her a bottle, Joshua is on the couch with a sandwich (half of which is smeared up my right leg – i.e. the vegemite) and I write longhand leaning on a Dr Zeus book.
Some of us just need a few tricks and tips to get into shape, others require a mentor, an “Accountability Partner” – someone to check in with regularly to keep on track. Organisation is the key. Time management is the answer. But your management needs to be wholistic – the whole thing, your time, your mind, your body and your spirit. Each part must be accounted for, nurtured and nourished. Only then will you perform at your peak to and give your best to yourself, your business and your children.